How do I bring up Rape Fantasy to my GF ???
Rape Fantasy. Such a wonderfully loaded topic. I’m a fan of fantasy; but actual rape? No, no thanks. There is a difference, and I know this strikes home to some people and you’re sensitive. I know rape isn’t a joke or something to be taken lightly, and I don’t.
That being said, Rape Fantasy is one of the more popular fantasies, it ranks with Teacher/student!
If you are already having sex that includes bondage or are having rough sex, then to move it into rape fantasy all you have to do is change how you take your partner captive and use different dirty talk.
Easier said than done, eh? I agree.
You can talk it out. Let’s say that you have wonderful sex with your partner already, but want to take it to the next level. You two can up the ante on your own… picking and choosing how to set up the fantasy. Ask your partner if they wouldn’t mind being a little rougher, or talk more dirty, or pretend to be your captive.
Escalate the sex in levels to see how you both like Rape Fantasy being played out. You can work the fantasy into sex that you’re already having, and it doesn’t always have to be rough. Add an element that you like (tape instead of rope, maybe a little slapping if it is in your fantasy), If you both like it, add another element. Before you know it, you’ll have elaborate set ups ready to surprise your partner with. Before you bring the idea to your partner, get an idea of what you want to accomplish. They might have many questions, and you will become their source. Lay down some boundaries, pick out a safe word and have fun.
You can hide as they get out of a shower and surprise them with bondage (can use tape or rope for hands and mouth, or a spandex bondage mask and a blind fold… all of these items are cheap) and other ideas that you think your rape fantasy consists of (as long as you agree upon the surprise element). Walk around them, talk to them, let them squirm. Rape isn’t about sex, it is about control.
Part of the control element is the Mind Fuck. To properly “dirty talk” a strong fantasy like this one, you have to say one thing and ‘threaten’ them with it, but not do it. You have to do everything leading up to the fearful act, and not do it.
The mind fuck is playing with a fear, such as saying you’re actually cutting your captive but not doing it. Toying with their skin and the cold metal, but not making a cut… or cut their clothing instead. Threaten anal sex if you know they hate it, saying that all their holes are yours to take if you wanted, and just merely TOUCH their asshole with the pad of your finger – nothing more.
If you’ve set up your willing captive just right, and they get into the fantasy with you; you both will be surprised how far you can push limits.
